…if Katie Roiphe is underwhelmed and unoffended by the sexually neutered males of Brooklyn fiction, she should check out this vast cultural wasteland called the internet. The best writing about sex is currently being done by the people who are smart/stupid enough to date and write about it. Dating wasn’t even really invented until the 1950s, it’s no wonder nobody knows how to do it.
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Molly Lambert on Manhood (via tylercoates)
This.
Also, Molly references this quote, which has made my day even though it is only 10am, saying, “The best advice I have ever heard about sex, romance, and masculinity is from porn star/P.T. Anderson muse John Holmes:”
“You don’t have to be overly macho. You don’t have to be over-complimentary. Gain her respect. And that’s treating her as an equal. Don’t bullshit her. Treat her as a human being. Treat her as you would treat yourself. As soon as you have that respect from her, she’ll treat you with the same respect that you show. Then you fuck the shit out of her.”